"Why worry about the things you can't control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you." - John C. Maxwell
As human beings we are always fretting about something. It doesn't matter if it is small or big, whether we are old or young, whether we are alone or together.
Fretting, worrying, anxiety, stress is all about what the mind does with the body, what the body is doing with the mind.
The fact of the matter is that most of our life is really beyond our control- our genes, our history, the family we were born into, and so on.
But there are the things that we CAN control, what about those?
In coaching, we are forever steering our clients into the direction of what CAN be controlled, helping them get out of their comfort zone, into pro-active mode, focused, energetic, positive and stretched, in line with their values and goals.
Shanti-deva, an 8th century Indian Buddhist priest and scholar said the following:
If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying?
If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying?
– Shantideva
We certainly have a lot to influence and control. Can we afford not to allow ourselves the strength, focus, clarity and drive to make this work for us?
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