Reframing is a process that we all do even though we don't call it that or are not particularly aware that this is what we are doing! A frame, or frame of reference are mental models (schema) of unquestioned beliefs, values ,etc., that we use to infer meaning. Reframing- when any part of that frame is changed (hence 'reframing'), then the meaning that is inferred may change.
Reframing is at the heart of what we coaches do, but not only us, as the approach is used all the time by therapists, teachers, facilitators, managers, leaders and… all of us!
The power of reframing is huge- one can quickly feel it when one reframes:
A problem as an opportunity
A weakness as a strength
An impossibility as a distant possibility
A distant possibility as a near possibility
Someone is 'against me' to something completely different, neutral (it is not really about me')
An act of unkindness as lack of understanding, etc.
You can often change a person's frame simply by changing their emotional state, making them happier, more aggressive, etc. When they are happier, for example, they will be more positive and optimistic (and vice versa).
Actually, reframing can change your life in so many ways, it can help when get out difficult spots emotionally and practically.
Which is why I brought this exercise to the mastermind meetings I ran recently, I knew they would love it and I was not disappointed! Very swiftly and effectively each participant was given the challenge of presenting problems and then asked, along with the small group, to try and reframe perspectives to see what he or she was "missing".
Bottom line? Sometimes it is important to give what you already our doing a name, and our name was "reframe". Once you do that, the power of focus, intent and in our mastermind- collective intelligence- comes into play.
And then….it is beautiful to watch since
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. (Wayne Dyer)!
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