Since listening is a very important part of what I do as a coach, I am always amazed how powerful it is to be on the "outside" of an "internal dialogue" that a client may be having- a dialogue that is often fixating him or her in a specific direction and not letting movement occur.
We have all been there, fixated on doing "our way" of solving things, our way of approaching problems, our way of getting the results we are used to getting but…. suddenly it is not working out!
Perhaps we can recall a time when it happened at school, or in sales situation or a presentation that suddenly is not working out. In the coaching room I often see it in that clients are fixated on a particular thing a person said or mistake they made or "what if" fear that is paralyzing them.
I love the coaching question of "what else?", there is also the "why do you think so" and lots of others that help unravel the client from himself… this article below is wonderful in that it brings research and examples in the medical field, flying and even simple manual problem solving to the "fixation scene".
I think we can all heed the lesson that is so essential to the coaching and mastermind process: there are many ways to climb the mountain, many ways to communicate, many ways to understand and many ways to live one's life.
How Fixation Error Prevents You From Solving Problems
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