Are you sure you are not trying to be a pleaser?

“I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure, which is: Try to please everybody.”

– Herbert Swope

They are out there in great numbers. 

I see them quite often in my coaching clinic or on my "coaching phone". I see it in my family members and I see it at times…in myself as well!

The desire to please others is deeply ingrained in us, it actually comes from a good place, we make a lot of friends that way, people will be pleased with us because we did and acted as they told us and expected from us. 

There is only one problem with this- it is doomed to failure! 

Our lives, careers and businesses are inherently contradictory, every decision that we make will involve a choice we did NOT make, and from there it is just a hop skip and a jump to recall to finding that somebody, and maybe quite a few somebodies, are not happy campers.

So what are you going to do about it? 

Well, if you see the pleaser inside you, remind him or her that they can be a good friend but they do not run the shop around here. 

Once you develop your own voice and your own mind, and learn to use it in conversation, you will find that the world will start lining up and accepting you more and more. 

But it is YOU who must make that first step. 

That is- to find the "pleaser" in that internal place in your mind and remind him that he cannot run the show.

Once you do that, come back and let me know, will you? 

Together we might find lots of insight, commitment and creativity on the way.